26 Apr Circle of Despair & Why You Don’t succeed

Circle of despair and why you don’t succeed is where we reach the same frustrating end results financially and physically each time. It can be simplified as

stage 1 – delusional optimism

we then go to

stage 2 – reality central ( where some give up)

then

stage 3 – the grind ( where most give up)

then finally

stage 4 – the breakthrough (winners in life)

What frustrates me is that most people never reach stage 4 and continuously loop back to stage 1 where everything is happy and “im gonna start again monday” type optimism !!!

We all know those repeat offenders dont we !

Its great to start with vigour and optimism dont get me all twisted on this one, but….

We suddenly realise we need to stop spending 7 hours a day on facebook to be productive or stop eating sugary snacks all day if we want to lose weight and the reality hits home like a mule kick to the NUTS !!!

So sadly some people rationalise this and the pain of giving up the chocolate bar 4 times a day is worse than the pain of staying fat , so they keep on the snickers diet !

Likewise the person who wants to earn more fun coupons each year but keeps doing the same old shit and has more excuses than a pregnant nun for why he/she cant earn more money !

– the economy ( more billionaires than ever in britain !)

– i cant earn more in my job ( leave then !)

– i dont have the time ( richard branson, alan sugar, bill gates all have 24 hours same as you !)

i could go on and on with this one…

So we set off to earn more money with a business on the side or one we set up or buy then holy shit… it damn hard work for little return for sometimes 3-5 years so we decide to go back to the comfortable salary in the same old job instead of rolling up our sleeves, growing a pair and running through the storm to the sunshine on the other side (stage 4).

Getting through stage 2 and deep into stage 3 hopefully means you have enough resolve to make it on through. BUT heres where a coach comes in,

1. they hold you accountable to agreed outcomes/targets

2. when sticking points come and you would normally quit and revert back to stage 1 you both work on strategies to get through it

3. you have invested in yourself with a coach so you have more “skin in the game” so you ultimately do more and stick with the outcome.

So although simple im sure you resonate with the stages and have fallen off the wagon on certain things at stage 2 or 3 and gone back to the happy stage 1 of sunshine and rainbows, dreaming of you bikini body and new big house and life.

TRUTH IS

ITS HARD GRAFT AND YOU NEED TO DO THE WORK NECESSARY

If you are struggling with anything and are prepared to put in the work lets have a chat 07795 064473

Miles